Friday weddings are great. Thursday weddings, even better?

Saturday weddings are the norm because people have off. Friday weddings may be cheaper, or the only options if the weekend is booked.

If you have a wedding on Thursday, something magical happens. Guests use vacation time (taking off Friday too). They’re ready to let loose and party.

Many guests may stay till Saturday. This gives you time to catch up with family and friends on Friday, after the stress of last minute wedding details has passed. People can head home on Saturday, and the church-goers won’t feel rushed on Sunday.

I love attending Thursday weddings. It might make it harder for the DJ since many have full-time jobs, but consider this as an option for your wedding.

A half hour before our wedding ended, my wife and I tried to sneak out. Our family and friends decorated our car, so there was no hiding our exit.

I feel bad when seeing couples staying afterwards to help clean up. It’s your day! Feel entitled to leave if possible, and if you want to. Go start life with your partner… consummate the marriage, reminisce about the day, get excited about the honeymoon; don’t start it by emptying trash cans.

Some grooms look so sharp, while others don’t.

Multiple things could be wrong:

• Dress shirt becomes untucked (or was never fully tucked in to begin with)

• Jacket, pants or shit is too big

• Tie is too loose (not tied properly)

• Tie or suit is out of fashion (chosen because it was on sale at Men’s Warehouse)

Ask yourself. Has my fiancé ever worn a suit before? In the past, men wore suits all the time. But if your wedding day is the first time he dons a tie, consider getting in some practice beforehand.

Have him try a few different suit styles so he’s comfortable in a slim-fit or tailored suit. Shop around to find a tie that’s newer looking than paisley. If you go, start dressing up for church during your engagement, or dress up for some fancy dates.

Dressing well takes time to learn what’s fashionable and find nice pieces that fit well. Don’t assume one visit to the college kid working at David’s Bridal will be enough. Spend time on this during your engagement.

Since I bought my ring off of Amazon for $14, I decided to get an extra one (one size bigger) in case I got fat. Fortunately I haven’t needed it yet.

I tested out a silver ring; it got scratched up immediately. Then I got a tungsten carbide ring from Amazon, and almost seven years later, it still looks new.

It’s just silly how much some things cost just because they’re associated with weddings. The ring doesn’t make me love my wife, but I will always wear it because I’ll love her till the day I die.

Also buy your house in cash. Haha, it sounds like I’m joking, but this is what my wife and I did.

I’m going to put this out there, because no one else will tell you this. You can get out of debt faster than you thought possible. You can get rid of your credit cards. You can never have a car payment again. And you can live without regret that you just put your honeymoon on a credit card.

In my humble opinion, you don’t want to start out a marriage worried about money. But, many couples do. They let their wedding spending get out of control simply because it’s their big day, so they justify foolishness in their heads.

We as humans do this all the time, we convince ourselves it’s okay to do something that is actually harmful to ourselves; I do this everyday with cookies and beer.

Money is such a personal topic to people, maybe because of shame. It’s easy to look at Instagram and think everyone else must be doing great with money, “Why am I not?”

From personal experience, don’t try to impress others with a big wedding, a super nice car, and the biggest ring. Focus on serving others, smiling, and being so grateful for the life and family members you do have.

I love when Bride’s spend lots of money on real flowers, because I get to take them home to my wife.

While I’m cleaning up my gear at the end of the night, I watch as flowers get piled high on the tables. Family members and staff tell me to take them home because if not, they’re going in the trash cans.

I have no recommendation but to tell you what my wife and I did. We got our flowers from Trader Joe’s, mostly Baby’s Breath. My wife put them into old bottles and it looked great. There may have been some eucalyptus leaves in there too.

Again, I have no problem with you spending a lot on flowers. I’ll certainly be impressed because I’m there setting up before anyone else arrives. Maybe the question is, how much will you or your guests notice them amongst all the other activities going on that day?